A few months ago, I had a new client—we’ll call her Lisa—who came to me with a very specific request.
She spoke in a hushed tone, as if we were discussing a state secrets. Nuclear codes, perhaps. Very Mission: Impossible.
“I want to lose weight,” she said, “but I don’t want anyone to know.”
I nodded. (This is actually a common discussion.)
Lisa sighed and continued.
“My family loves big meals, and if I start eating differently, they’ll make comments…
My husband always says he loves me the way I am, so I don’t want him to think I’m unhappy…
And my friends? The second I say I’m trying to lose weight, they’ll start watching everything I eat, asking how much I’ve lost, or worse—waiting for me to fail.”
Lisa’s concerns weren’t unusual. A lot of people feel pressure to keep their health goals private because they’re afraid of judgment, unsolicited opinions, or even the fear of failing in front of others. But keeping your weight loss journey a secret can actually work against you.
Here’s why being open—even with just a few trusted people—can make all the difference.
1. Accountability Helps You Stay Committed
Imagine trying to train for a marathon but telling no one. No one asks about your progress, no one cheers you on, and no one notices if you skip your training runs. When you keep your health goals to yourself, you miss out on one of the most powerful motivators—accountability.
When you let people in on your weight loss goals, they can help keep you on track. Maybe it’s a friend who joins you for workouts, a partner who supports your meal choices, or even just someone who checks in to see how things are going. Knowing that others are rooting for you can make it easier to stay consistent.
Aside from the socio-emotional element, studies have shown that people who share their weight loss goals with a supportive network are more likely to stick with them. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or even a coach, having someone check in on you can make all the difference.
2. A Support System Can Make or Break Your Success
Trying to lose weight without support can feel like swimming against the current. When you let people in on your journey, you create an opportunity for encouragement, shared experiences, and maybe even a gym or meal prep buddy.
Of course, not everyone will be immediately supportive—some might even make jokes or roll their eyes. It happens. People can be jerks. But more often than not, people want to support you. And if they don’t? That says more about them than it does about your goals.
Your loved ones want you to be happy, just as you want them to be happy. Let people know what would make you happy.
3. Hiding Your Goals Can Lead to Self-Sabotage
When you keep your weight loss journey a secret, you might unconsciously make choices that slow your progress. Think about it—if no one knows you’re trying to eat healthier, they might pressure you into splitting dessert, bringing your favorite cookies over, or questioning why you’re ordering a salad instead of your usual burger.
It’s a lot easier to say, “I’m working toward a goal” than to keep dodging questions or making excuses. Plus, the more you practice owning your choices, the more confident you’ll feel in sticking to them.
4. You Deserve to Be Proud of Your Efforts
Weight loss, or any kind of self-improvement, takes effort, discipline, and patience. You wouldn’t hide it if you were training for a big competition or running your first 5K—so why treat weight loss differently?
Sharing your progress doesn’t mean you have to post daily gym selfies or announce every pound lost on social media. But telling the people closest to you allows them to celebrate your wins, support you through challenges, and remind you of how far you’ve come.
5. Openness Encourages a Healthier Relationship with Food and Body Image
When weight loss is treated like a secret mission, it can sometimes fuel an unhealthy mindset. Hiding your efforts can make it feel like there’s something shameful about wanting to change your body, when in reality, it’s perfectly okay to want to feel stronger, healthier, and more confident.
By being open, you help normalize the idea that working on yourself isn’t about vanity—it’s about well-being. And who knows? Your honesty might even inspire someone else to start their own journey.
The Bottom Line: Let People Cheer You On
Lisa eventually told her husband about her weight loss journey.
His response? “I love you no matter what, but I’ll support you however you need.”
She later admitted that letting him in on her goals made everything easier—he started making healthier meals with her, cheered her on when she hit milestones, and even joined her for evening walks.
So if you’ve been keeping your goals a secret, consider letting someone in. You don’t have to tell everyone, but having a support system can make your journey smoother, more enjoyable, and, ultimately, more successful.
And if you need someone to support you? I’m here to help. Book a free consultation today at The A-List Clinic, and let’s work toward your goals—together.
